Grief--Information and Resources
by Heather McDonald
January 06, 2008
What is Grief?
When someone close to us dies, we experience something called grief. You may have heard about grief but are not quite sure what it is all about. Grief can be feelings: anger, sadness, worry, relief, fear, numbness. Or it may be thoughts, such as "Who will take care of me now that my mom died?," "Why do people get cancer?," or "What will happen next?" Sometimes, grief affects our bodies. We feel sleepy, or have trouble falling asleep. We may not feel like eating. We may have headaches or stomachaches or all of a sudden don't feel like doing things we usually like to do, such as playing or going to school. All of these experiences are normal for grieving kids.
You might have wondered: will I ever get over this? There is no magic pill for grief. It's not something you "get over." A lot of people say grief is like a journey. Although it never ends, things do get better, and there are things you can do to smooth over the rough and rocky places along the way.
How Should I Grieve?
Everyone grieves differently:
- One person may want to talk about death
- Another may choose to cry
- One might write about their experiences in a journal or chat room
- Some choose to express their grief in creative/artistic ways
- Others are physical in their grief - participating in sports or other big energy activities
- No one way is the right way to grieve - your way of grieving is right for you.
Adapted from The DougyCenter